I do not promise coherency

Single peeps with children, seriously.  How do you do it? What is your secret?  Do you have access to some sort of single-parent pseudoephedrine stash, and if so, can I get in on that action?  Because we have three-ish weeks of this Choose Your Own Adventure: First Semester of Law School left, and I am WORE OUT.  I am waiting for the inevitable bad decision page turn where I get hit with a giant runaway boulder.  Oops! THE END.

It’s the weekends, man.  The weekends.  The only way in which my weekend is different than my week is that I do not have a built in activity (school) to entertain my kids in the morning (although if places in heaven are secured by Sunday School attendance, Noah is set UP).  That’s pretty much it.  It’s monotonous to the max, and do not get me wrong, I love me some Rosie and Noah, (and in fact I feel kind of like I’m a big jerk for complaining about this gig when all they’re doing is being Totally Winsome and Completely Delightful in All Ways) but all I’m saying is that a little absence could go a LONG way in my heart, re: growing fonder.

My house is sort of freakishly ordered (note: not the same as clean), and that may be due to the fact that I sometimes fill time by getting Noah to do chores with-slash-for me.  The second he figures out I have conscripted him into hard manual labor and passed it off as a super! fun! activity!, I’m screwed.  The picking up help is necessary though, because this single parenting stuff has coincided with Rosie’s rededication to making sure everything is cleared from all high surfaces and relocated to the floor, where the good Lord intended it to be.  She is thorough in her efforts, too: the box of dominoes cannot just be knocked off the shelf – every. single. domino. must be painstakingly removed and then flung away with vigor so as to cover all the square inches of the floor equally.  It is hard work, but she remains steadfast in her labors.  She’s no half-asser!

I would like to mention that L is working tirelessly as well.  It’s a different kind of work, but I have to say that as much as I would love a child-rearing break, I do not envy him.  I remember that feeling – that weight that settles in to your countenance at the beginning of each semester and doesn’t leave until you turn in your last exam.  Always feeling like you should be doing something else, whether you are with your family or with your books.  Study material-filled dreams (or nightmares).  Exam dread. Performance anxiety. Study sequestration.

At least I am getting to enjoy a little sunshine sometimes, you know?

Anyway, we’re kind of a pitiful lot over here, but we’re going to make it.  I’m pretty sure we will.  Like almost definitely.

Maybe.

6 comments

1 Dorothy { 11.16.09 at 9:03 am }

WORD. I hear you. Press on sister. we can throw back a couple o’ margaritas and lament together come May, if we survive the 6ish months between now and then.

2 Anjie { 11.16.09 at 1:43 pm }

Seriously…empty king bed waiting for you here if you can get someone to watch your kids for a while. Of course, there’s nothing really to do…but lay around, eat with full uninterrupted conversations, and have all the wifi access you want. Oh, and there’s a bathtub. :)

3 Leigh Ann { 11.16.09 at 8:30 pm }

geez. i’m tired just reading that.

4 Tiffany { 11.17.09 at 1:39 am }

Umm…you and L ROCK. Seriously, my husband is in his first semester of law school and I NEVER see him. I mean really, NEVER. Since we are both in school, we spend every night at the kitchen table doing work till the wee hours of the morning. I could not imagine rocking at the whole “parenting thing” AND doing the school thing. You guys are awesome and I am completely impressed :)

5 Lisa { 11.17.09 at 2:10 pm }

I hear you. An afternoon cocktail does not go amiss for us single parents out here. Oh, wait, I just read an article in Parents magazine that tells me that drinking one glass of wine while parenting (even while the kids are in bed) makes me a horrible parent. Darn. Maybe I can just do downward dog while the kids frolic underneath? :)

6 Lisa { 11.17.09 at 7:00 pm }

PS – Did you know that there is a website for moms of multiples called hdydi.com? (that’s short for How Do You Do It?) Awesome.

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